I heard this recently: a couple who fight to win in the marriage destroy the family.
When there is a conflict, it might call for a change instead of a competition in order to resolve it.
Competition carries the energy of controlling: the situation, the status, the result.
Change carries the energy of partnership: closing a gap, making things better, adopting what’s working, connecting the dots.
Confusing the two is stressful and benefits no one.
A helpful question might be: do I want to make a change or simply win?
