Judgment might remind us of all the bad things that we experienced in life, but it actually can be a very useful tool if we learn to see it differently.
Self-judgment might be an old friend in our narratives, the motivation that we tell ourselves to do better, the way we use to reflect our thoughts and behaviors… and yet, we find ourselves back in the similar situation again and again. Does self-judgment really work this way? I wonder.
What if our self-judgment is meant to tell us something else, something rather than “us lacking”, “us wrong”, “us not enough”, “us should or shouldn’t”?
What if self-judgment shows up to say that we have unmet needs, that we would love to experience something more by meeting our needs, that we want to live a more wonderful life for ourselves and the others as well.
In the light of knowing, self-judgment is a beautiful opportunity to truly listen to our feelings and needs, to connect with ourselves.
We have a choice.
