I learned to see an triggering event from the unmet need point of view in a Non-violent Communication (NVC) training. When look at the need list, there are a hundred of them.
With a list this long, it’s safe to assume that meeting every single one of them isn’t the goal of this approach. After two years’ experiment, I have learned that some needs on the list are simply a way to meet one core need that truly matters.
It’s like the other complicated issues and challenges in life. When not seeing the core issue, we get lost in the weeds and distractions, and often forget why we even start in the first place.
Finding that core need without being held up by distractions takes practice and resilience. Until that happens, we’ll keep walking in the weeds.
