A caregiver told an emotional trigger kid to act kindly towards the triggering source, another kid. The jump was so big that the triggered kid didn’t know what to do. Then more telling followed.
This is what people get wrong about making a change:
When we ask someone to be kind, do we know what kindness looks like and feels like?
When we ask someone to help, have we helped them first so they actually know how to help and what it does for others?
The challenge of making the changes we want to see is never about telling. When we can’t show, expecting telling to do the heavy lifting is a waste of time.
