Seeing beyond resistance helps us learn about ourselves and the people around us.
Disagreeing is an indication of resistance. When disagreeing, it’s essential to get down to exactly what we disagree about. Is it about a strategy or solution or how we understand and evaluate the situation?
Because strategy disagreement opens the options of tactics, how we understand the situation often reflects our values and beliefs.
Flat-out refusing to work with others is the resistance. Fitting in isn’t the goal, but being unable to communicate the disagreements and concerns creates a divided team and turns the resistance into a competition.
When resistance has become a game to win, instead of grounding ourselves into a bigger goal of connection, everyone loses.
When noticing resistance, it helps to ask whether this is about winning or what’s working and what’s not.
Focusing on making things better helps everyone.
