Without awareness, we tend to react instinctively to situations and events. These reactions can create ripple effects that extend further than we may realize. In contrast, when we choose to respond, we experience a different emotional state. While gaining control over our emotions is important, the benefits of responding extend beyond ourselves.
Here are the differences between the two:
Reactions often involve unprocessed feelings and needs. I feel this way right now, and everyone should know how I feel.
Responses, on the other hand, come from processing our feelings and needs. Although I had those feelings, communicating clear messages instead of emotions helps address the issues at hand.
Reaction often leads to regrets. Because of their spontaneous nature, we don’t take enough time to support ourselves with empathy, let alone extend empathy to others. As a result, this can further escalate the problem and lead to undesired outcomes.
Response reduces regrets. Taking time and space to support our feelings and needs helps us to regroup and gain a clearer understanding of the situation. When we have the capacity to stand in other people's shoes, we can choose how we want things to unfold.
By building our emotional capacity, we respond to challenges and situations better, giving us the power to turn things around rather than being controlled by them.
