The first time I heard this term was from the book called Status Games by Loretta Graziano Breuning and it’s like the major AHA moment to a question that I have been pondering for a long time.
There is one thing that I believe everyone who has truly learned something, is learning or loves to learn has experienced and known about: feeling frustrated about things that we have tried but don’t work. Regardless of our experiences and level on the learning journey, when something doesn’t work, frustration happens, to everyone. It’s part of the game, the reason that builds up our resilience.
It’s one of the key concepts that allow us to see the whole dynamics of learning with peers. We are in the learning group, doing and trying is one part of it, the other part is getting feedback, especially when things might not work. So we have a chance to fix, improve, and make it better. Maybe it is important to emphasize on giving helpful feedback, but more importantly, I believe, is to know that it is our own responsibility to manage frustration of the setbacks.
There is a difference between: feeling frustrated about trying and not working versus feeling frustrated from the impact of the other people’s feedback.
It might be easier to blame and take it out on the others than facing our own frustration, but knowing the difference helps us see it and create the outcome that we have wanted all along. the way learning is meant to happen.
If making things better is a collective goal, we might want to do that at every level we can see and improve.
