We get to sit in the driver’s seat if we choose to. At any given moment.
On the surface, shifting from expectation (feeling disappointed because things didn’t turn out the way we expected or because people let us down) to appreciation (being grateful for the opportunity to learn about my reaction and how I can improve the situation) may sound like a mindset shift. But in reality, it requires the whole package of skills.
First, it’s about noticing, processing, and regulating our emotions so we learn our feelings and body reactions when things are difficult.
Second of all, we recognize that we have a choice: we can either stay in the state of reaction—falling into self-pity, blaming others, and wallowing in the mud of deservedness—or take control of the outcome through learning, improving, and showing up for others (including those who have let us down).
More importantly, when we choose to rise again, it shows that we have cut through all emotions and reactions to see what truly matters to us.
When we say we were born to live a fulfilled life, seeking meaning in what we do is a significant part of that.
Don't waste the moment.
